The Laws of Attraction

This question floated across my twitter timeline this week: "Ladies...what's the sexiest nonsexual thing a man can do that'll turn you on?" I immediately came up with an answer, like you probably just did, it's like a reflex. Then I had another answer and another, so this week I present my very first listicle! These are The Top 10 Nonsexual Things A Man Can Do To Turn Me On:

10. Dress well. This is not super important to me, because it's not inherent, it can be learned; however, a guy in clothes that fit him (not baggy, not too little) and are well coordinated will put a smirk on my face. 😏 P.S. Labels don't matter to me except for USPA. Never. Wear. USPA.

9. Be nice to my friends. Don't take this for granted. There's a weird rhetoric that the boyfriend hates the besties, but not with my girlfriends. The friends I have are reflections of me, so it makes me happy when my guy gets along with them. And even if he doesn't like them, respecting them means he respects their position in my life and ultimately, me.

8. Introduce me to new things. For me, this is usually music or television. I really like it when we can vibe with the same entertainment choices because it becomes a way for us to spend more quality time together, or they become mementos of that person to me.

7. Be good with kids or animals. These are the sweetest moments! I would add the elderly in too, because here a gentleman has to have patience and understanding, compassion and even creativity. And also if he doesn't treat the aforementioned well, that's a red flag.

6. Remember the little things. Dates, my favorite candy, why I hate voicemails, what soap I use...these are all little things. It's sexy because it means a fella is paying attention to me. Attention is not always favorable, but with the small things, you can't miss.

5. Have good hygiene. I can't kiss you if your teeth aren't brushed. I can't run my fingers through your head full of dandruff. Why are you so ashy?! Kidding guys (but not really). Men get busy, they get funky. I find good hygiene very attractive, because it encourages me to be more intimate.

4. Listen and respond. Seems simple right? Not! I know I can talk for days, so if I can make an effort to give you the short version and save the girlfriend version for my girlfriends, you can listen AND RESPOND. Reciprocity period is sexy to me, so that last part is essential. Everyone wants to be heard.

3. Lawd have mercy, know when I'm tired and give me a break. My favorite compliment in the world I have ever received at 28 is "I know you're tired, you don't have to be Superwoman tonight." This was after I threw a huge corporate party, had been on my feet and entertaining all night and just wanted valet to hurry up. There are multiple instances I can name though. Knowing a guy cares about my well being enough to stop me when I'm still going is...just, yeah.

2. Be good at his job. The passion involved in a man's work can be marvelous to watch if he loves his job. Watching his skill, proficiency and intelligence turns me on. I'm also a big supporter of "work smarter, not harder".

1. Pray. I didn't know this was a thing, but it was my automatic answer to that tweet. I always knew I wanted a man with a connection to faith, but I saw a man I was interested in pray and I lit up like a Christmas tree. It was beautiful, and the top non-sexual thing a man can do that I find very sexy. In case you didn't know, God is love.

I hope you found this list fun and funny, feel free to share your answers in the comments. Until next Sunday!